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Whoever Takes Those Five Months Defaults to Five More Years: How to Negotiate Leave, Caregiving, and Career Opportunities in Co-Parenting

Before the baby arrives, many couples think the hardest part is deciding who takes parental leave. The real challenge is the next three years: one partner casually asks, 'Can you …

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Before the baby arrives, many couples think the hardest part is deciding who takes parental leave. The real challenge is the next three years: one partner casually asks, 'Can you do early pickup on Wednesday?' while the other mentally calculates the month's meetings, commute, and performance reviews; one gets up twice in the night, while the other assumes 'they've already done their shift'; one receives a promotion, and the other blurts out, 'Then who's going to...'

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Before the baby arrives, many couples think the hardest part is deciding who takes parental leave. The real challenge is the next three years: one partner casually asks, 'Can you do early pickup on Wednesday?' while the other mentally calculates the month's meetings, commute, and performance reviews; one gets up twice in the night, while the other assumes 'they've already done their shift'; one receives a promotion, and the other blurts out, 'Then who's going to...'

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